Friday 27 December 2013

"Your Bra Strap is Showing"

I can totally relate to this weeks submission. And it fucking pisses me off when others (almost always women) feel the need to keep an eye on my bra straps. When I was younger and gothier I would wear ultra flamboyant bras with sheer fishnet shirts, sometimes sparkly and sometimes fluorescent.... clearly I did not give a fuck if my strap was showing. But still, I encountered the odd person telling me my strap was showing. 

Frankly, what is the big deal? 

why are we so afraid of breasts, that we can't even have the strap of the thing that holds them up peek out? 

It isn't the biggest scandal in the universe... and clearly sometimes people are going through far more important things to worry about how much of their bra strap is showing. As you can see the person in the picture below was going through something a tad more important. Lets get things in perspective, and not hate on, or fear breasts so much in the future. 

Ladies, if u see a defiant bra strap boldly looking out into the world.... just let it be. It too deserves to feel the warmth of the sun.  


Friday 20 December 2013

Body Politics: You cannot shame me for who I am.


So last week was a trip, with some assholic disapproval and douchey disappointment - all geared at the woman bold enough to bare herself with unconventional pit-hair. How dare she defy the standards of beauty set for women... how fucking dare she. And on top of that to be a lesbian too? Come on... this was not the 'show' many men were hoping for.... perhaps they thought I'd put up a bunch of pictures touched up in photoshop, all soft-lensed and dreamy.... maybe a seductive hetero strip-tease? Victoria's secret lingerie perhaps? Sorry hetero* penis-owners, this is one thing that will NOT cater to your needs, nor be geared towards you. I apologize...I know how spoiled you are as a target audience - everything is wrapped up all pretty for you... and put on a fucking silver platter. Maybe I can pull out my tiny air violin and play a little something to mark this sad, unjust occasion?

*I know you're not all assholes (don't get ur undies in a bunch), I happened to be married to a lovely hetero penis-owner myself. So please bear with me while I address those who are.

Anyhoo, back here on earth....I'd like to post the second pair of bosoms.




The shit we put up with since we're little... the shaming.. and the feeling dirty for just having mammaries....I hear you, sister. The fuckin' dupatta (scarf) - what a hypocritical and inconvenient piece of cloth....don't get me wrong.... its a lovely, flowy accessory.. but when that element of choice disappears and you are shamed for not draping it properly (especially when most contemporary dupattas are flimsy and see-through and don't cover anything). If you like dupattas and enjoy wearing them... then I stand behind you.... but there should be some flexibility in how or if we choose to wear one.

Imagine how a child just going through puberty processes this kind of shaming and sexualization..... way to make her feel guilty about having breasts before they've even fully developed.

Ladies, once again....I will say please continue to send in your submissions.... nicemangosDOTblogATgmailDOTcom - and don't forget to include a line about how you have been discriminated against or shamed for being a woman! (If you're just tuning in, read the original post about the project here)

Cheers! I'll leave you with some of the fabulous hate messages I have received... oh and keep those comin' to, don't be shy.... we need to hear exactly what people's mentality is like in this day and age.








Friday 13 December 2013

We 'Bear' Our Breasts

No, its not a spelling mistake.... the word 'bear' is used instead of 'bare' highly intentionally, I assure you. As women, we bear a hell of a lot.

For those of you who haven't read about the project before, you can get all the details here.

I am sick of how women are treated in Pakistani society, the concepts of honour and ownership associated with women....and their bodies.

This project is meant to be a step towards ownership of our own bodies. And a demonstration of the kinds of oppression, fear, intolerance and objectification women face on a daily basis in the 'land of the pure'.

When I asked for submissions, I honestly didn't think I'd get any responses or much support... but I am truly thankful that this was not the case. I continue to receive wonderful submissions from Pakistani women of all walks of life, all shapes and sizes....you are all beautiful, strong and bold....and we are making history together.

I would also like to thank the wonderful people who supported my cause by helping to spread the word.

I noticed some people who are usually happy to interact with me and support my cause for sexual education and equality in Pakistan ...withdraw...I guess boobs are just too risque for you. Disappointed.

The crazies showing their outright disapproval only make this project stronger, so I'd like to thank you too!

Comments on this blog will be monitored, so anything horrible, cruel said about someone's physical appearance will definitely not be published.

Please help spread the word and keep the submissions coming in!!


Now before I post the highly anticipated and much asked about first ever #BearOurBreasts boob shots, let me introduce myself to those who may be seeing my work for the first time; I'm Eiynah, a Pakistani-Canadian blogger/illustrator who writes/draws mainly about sex and sexuality in Pakistan. 

If the nature of my work doesn't sit well with you, I suggest you leave this space, because there's plenty more where it came from. Cheers! 


Here we go. And every week from now on, hopefully... (I will only be posting 1 or 2 at a time)
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Keep those submissions comin' ladies;